Saturday, April 15, 2006

Sex Toys: Breasts

Breasts. Nipples. The evolutionary uses (for those of you who believe in evolution) were to produce and deliver mother's milk to her babies - - thus providing the mother’s immunities and nourishment until the wee one's immune systems matured and his teeth came in so that he could chew like the rest of the human race. But that was then – you know, back in the days when plastic bottles with disposable plastic bags, silicon (less allergic reactions than rubber) nipples, and baby formula didn’t exist.

Now-a-days, you say the word "breasts" and pictures of Pamela Anderson’s enhanced mammaries come to mind. They don’t? Maybe I should qualify that and say in most male minds they do. Truly! Trust me, have I lied to you yet in my blogs?

Let’s face it, men like breasts as much as or more than babies do. Many men don’t really care if they are real or fake. Just ask them. They see breasts, and their lower brains perk up and sexual thoughts proceed to dominate their higher brains.

And just what kind of thoughts?

Well, not being male, I had to ask. Inquiring minds and all that. And the reply (okay, I only was brave enough to ask my better half– so shoot me) was not really all that surprising. When a man sees breasts, he thinks about getting his hands - - and his mouth - - on them and playing with them. And if the man is any good, both parties fully enjoy the process.

So, what does all this have to do with sex toys, you ask?

Nothing much, but I needed a segue into the discussion of other ways couples can stimulate the breasts besides the old-fashioned and nature-given options of fingers, hands, mouth, and, yes, teeth.
Many women find that they need extra breast stimulation to enhance their sexual excitement. A little harder pinch. Some stronger suction. An occasional tug. Maybe even an even harder pinch or tug.

That’s where nipple toys, more specifically, clamps and suction devices come in.

Ouch, you say?

Yes, nipple play using toys can be painful - - or it can be highly stimulating in a good way. It all depends upon the tolerance of the individual woman and proper timing.

There are three basic kinds of clamps. For this discussion we will assume the woman does not have breast piercings which is a whole ‘nother bag of worms. Trust me. Dr. Rae is a coward when it comes to needles and not even for her fans would she get her breasts pierced to report on the sensations that adds to sexual play. Maybe some of you with breast piercings could chime in and share with the rest of us.

The first kind of clamp is the adjustable nipple clamp. This is a good one to begin with since the adjustments (done by tightening and loosening the little screw) can go from a little pinch to a big ouch. The clamps themselves are made of metal (sometimes plastic but those break more easily). The metal have a little bit of weight that adds to the noticeability factor. The tips are covered in a rubberlike material so that the metal of the clamp does not abrade the tender nipple tissue. Many clamps of this variety are connected by a chain. The chain is so that your partner can give a little tug to the nipples as you become more aroused - - and, I suspect, because it looks kinky.

Safety tip: Avoid excessive tugging on the nipple. Even though nipples are pretty tough little mothers, a tissue tear can happen.

Safety tip: When adjusting the screw, remember, righty tighty, lefty loosey.

Adjustable clamps are also sold in pairs without chains and often have places to attach weights or decorative items to the bottom. Adding weight enters the realm of riskiness since you could tear the underlying breast tissue. But then again, babies (and sex partners) often tug the nipples extremely hard – and it takes a lot to pull the nipples away from the underlying support. Just be aware, it can happen, if you decide to add weight to the clamps. If you are more into the look of the clamp, add a string of colorful beads and bells – more playful and less wear and tear on the nipple.

The second kind of clamp, a tweezer clamp, is a tad more punishing. It also can be adjusted by sliding a small metal ring up and down the long tweezerlike clamps, but because the gripping end of the clamp is smaller, even a little pressure goes a long, long way.

Dr. Rae likes these clamps because they stay on the nipple better, but urges that you not leave them, or any clamp for that matter, on for very long. The small area that they clamp becomes even more highly sensitized and removal should only be done during the heights of orgiastic ecstasy or you might be screaming more in pain than in pleasure.

Safety Tip: Clamps are not meant to be worn for great lengths of time since they shut off the blood circulation to the nipple. Ten to fifteen minutes is more than enough -- so remember the timing issues when applying them.

The third kind of clamp, the Japanese clover clamp, is an extremely wicked device and should only be attempted if (1) you like pain and (2) you really, really like pain, and (3) you really, really, REALLY like pain.

Yes, they look harmless, and at first they feel like an adjustable clamp, only harder, but when tugged or shifted at all, well, let’s just say screaming is a word that comes to mind – or in my case, four-letter words.

Safety tip: Avoid this clamp unless you are a pain slut.

Those are the main types of clamps; there are others but they are not prevalent enough to be mentioned here or are just variations of the above three.

If pain is not your deal, but you like the look of something on the nipple and you don’t want to do something permanent such as a piercing, try a nipple enhancer.

One really sexy little number provides the look of a nipple guard without the holes. Remember Janet Jackson’s costume mishap at the Super Bowl? Yep, her gold nipple guard and piercing were televised to millions of people. Sales of non-piercing nipple jewelry soared after her exposure. There are many types of non-piercing nipple jewelry available on-line. Just type the words into your search vehicle. I believe even eBay has a section of them; they seem to have sections on everything else under the sun.

One last type of breast play that I will mention is suction. Women know it is pleasurable to have their nipples sucked. Suction promotes blood engorgement of the nipple and thus enhances both pleasurable and painful sensations. There are all sorts of really expensive pieces of equipment such as breast pumps, Chinese medical cupping sets and the like, but the cheapest way to use suction other than your partner’s lips is the good old-fashioned suction cups from a snake bite kit. Just go into your local hunting and camping store and buy a kit. Easy to find. Inexpensive. Not at all embarrassing to purchase unless you blurt out what you are going to use them for. And handy if you ever do go camping in snake country.

Sex toys for nipple play are another form of foreplay. They might not be for everyone, but you’ll never know unless you give them a whirl.

Share your experiences with nipple play – or nipple piercings – and I’ll choose one of the entries to win a free download of any one LSB book.

As always, play safely and sanely - -

Dr. Rae


Anonymous Anonymous said...

I had never so much as seen a nipple clamp before reading your post! I had heard about them but always thought that the ouch factor would be too great. Chuckled over the alternative use for the snake bite kit as well as the cups of Asian medicine being similarly used. The things that I learn here!

Little Lamb Lost

12:34 AM  
Blogger Caffey said...

Hi Dr Rae :) First time I saw nipple piercing or really knew about it! was from the superbowl and seeing Janet Jackson's. I then remembered a couple of erotic romances I read with them in it, but I hadn't in the past read many with BDSM because this wasn't written much until recently where more books coming out and there are some I enjoyed reading and some that weren't to my preference but still enjoyed the stories themselves.
When I was a teen, my mom had lots of rules and one was that we couldn't get our ears piereced until we were 16 and it had to be at a doctor's office and we had to earn the money ourselves and be totally responsible (yes she was strick, but taught us alot about responsiblity and she as our parents determined when for some rules, like dating as well). Anyway, I worked towards that and after 18 if we wanted more, we could have those that were hidden from her if we still lived there. I never wanted anything more. Really none of us went beyond more piecing in our ears. My brothers would tease us and tell us we have more holes in our heads, LOL.
For me, other parts of the body, piecing is not appealing to me, lips, tongue, eyebrows and nose. But I think a belly button piercing can be pretty. I've seen some that really were nice.
You know what I do too, I put these similar rules on my kids about piercing with the ears. I didn't directly tell them about the limits of the other peircing because I'm not sure of this with them as adults, when they get there, LOL, can make that decision where ever they live.
Thanks for this info because it helped me bunches, especially that I have two teenagers! This was great reading, so much I didn't know. For sensuality, I find the nipple stimulation using gentle toys can be appealing. But I think of the softer toys, feathers, lotions, oil, that sort.
Thanks for a great discussion

3:20 AM  
Blogger snowflake said...

Rae, I knew you can always be counted on to deliver a stimulating blog topic. Personally I like my boobs to be handled with tender loving care so nipple clamps are out for me (suction cups sound fine though). And piercing is a no no, the risk of infection and other complications is just too great for me.

10:00 AM  
Blogger Meljprincess said...

I'm pierced all over. Having my nipple sucked and my nipple ring being tugged on feels so good. Purrrrrrr.....

10:26 AM  
Blogger Michelle said...

Morning Rae,

Great topic darlin. I'm off to google search a couple of items ~smiles~.


11:15 AM  
Blogger A J Matthews said...

Cool topic, Rae. Very thought provoking. I've no piercings of any sort - not that way inclined and I agree with Jennybrat's post on infections - but the clamps idea is cool. I love the metal snowflake too.

11:27 AM  
Anonymous Lily Ashford said...

Ahem, you know, at one point, I actually thought of myself as "adventurous" and "open to all things kinky."

I was wrong.

All I can say about nipple clamps is "OUCH!" I actually started noticing them in books a few months ago, and they're waaaay too kinky for little me, who absolutely hates pain. Give me a pair of soft (or hard) lips any time. My breasts like gentleness. (I know, I'm a coward. *sigh*)

11:51 AM  
Blogger Rae Morgan said...

Little Lamb -- The ouch factor is always important. Like I said in my blog-- heavy nipple play is not for everyone.

Caffey -- I expect a lot of people first learned about nipple piercing from old Janet's costume malfunction. Thank the stars, she at least had nice breasts to look at and her gold shield was way cool. I'm still too much of a coward (and too old) for breast piercings -- but who knows what I might have done many many moons ago?

And I too had to wait until I could afford to pay for my own ears being pierced. My mom accompanied me to the doctor's office; we didn't have mall kiosks in Indiana in 1970. I thought I was extremely cool at the time. I got my second set of holes in my ears at 22. And that was it for me. I don't heal well and I am afraid that any other piercings would form heavy scar tissue. So, I think you are smart to put limits on your teens until they are old enough to make informed decisions. And feathers are very nice!! :)

Jennybrat, Why thank you darling. And yes the suction cups are fun. Again you must not get overly aggressive or you can pop some blood vessels. Not dangeorus per se, but it looks bad and takes a while to heal. Yes, I speak from experience. Gentleness and timing is the issue there.

Meljprincess -- thanks for sharing! My imagination went into overtime and now I'm sweating. LOL

Michelle -- Happy shopping, dearest. You'll have to tell me what you bought --at RT.

AJ-- Yes, infections are always a risk. Piercing is not for dummies.

Lily -- No, no, not a coward. You just know what "you" like. Heavy nipple play is NOT for everyone. You've got to find your limits and stay within them -- that is why I always end with the admonition of playing safely and sanely -- implied in that is consensually. Always let your lover know what "you" like or need. We are all different -- that's what makes the world such an interesting place.

12:46 PM  
Blogger Paige Burns said...

Hmm, I wonder if I leave this up on my screen if Mr. B will read it! Thanks Dr. Rae for the info, now how to decide...

12:50 PM  
Blogger Meljprincess said...

LOL! Rae. My tongue ring does some fabulous things, too.

I did it once with a guy who had a huge barbell that went right through the head of his penis. Oh, and there was the guy I dated who had a circular barbell on the side of his penis. OK, now I'm sweating...LOL!

1:08 PM  
Blogger LISA WILLIAMS said...

Nope never tried the nipple clamp and it was tough enough getting my ears pierced so no way I would be able to my nipple pierced.

2:41 PM  
Blogger Pamk said...

ouch just the thought of nipple piercing and clamps make me cringe. I am definitely not into pain. I like the things the good lord gave a man his lips or hands lol

3:53 PM  
Anonymous Cherie said...

No never have tried nipple clamps or piercings and would never want to. My breasts are very sensitive so my husband's carressing hands and mouth are enough to get me going. Eductional blog topic, however. I learned some new stuff.

5:48 PM  
Blogger LSB Author, Darragha Foster said...

Ouch, and no thank you!

6:12 PM  
Blogger Rae Morgan said...

Paige, well if Mr. B does some shopping, let me know. :)

Lisa, PamK, Cherie and Darragha, the ouches are noted and accounted for. LOL Thanks for checking in!!

I will announce the winner sometime after 10 pm and all the storm and tornado watches have expired in my neck of the woods -- and others have some time to make a comment.

Very turbulent weather here and I am getting offline.We had some big frigging chunks of hail the other day -- lots of damage and this storm has the same capability. So far, knocking on wood, we have managed to stay safe.

6:29 PM  
Blogger blackroze37 -tami said...

wouldnt be pretty when i have to drag them up off my knees and clamped or pierce them, nah dont think so :)

10:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have read about nipple clamps, and thought about trying them. I didn't realize there are so many kinds. As for piercings, I have ears pierced and have thought about doing my belly button and maybe my nipples. I don't know if I could go in and have someone do my nipples though. I'd probably be blushing like crazy! It is intruiging though. lol


11:11 PM  
Blogger Jennifer Y. said...

OUCH! I can't imagine using those!

12:00 AM  
Blogger Rae Morgan said...

Thanks for visiting blackroze, Chell and Jennifer Y.

12:11 AM  
Blogger Rae Morgan said...

Because she made me snort my Pepsi, Blackroze is the winner of the download of her choice. E-mail me at

and let me know what book you wish to claim as your prize and the format (PDF, HTML, or MSLit).

The image of someone lifting their breasts from their knees to clamp them is now etched on my brain. LOL

12:27 AM  
Blogger Christy Robin said...

Japanese clover clamp? Oh my. It does look innocent, but I can imagine.

5:06 PM  

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