Sex Toys: Breasts

Breasts. Nipples. The evolutionary uses (for those of you who believe in evolution) were to produce and deliver mother's milk to her babies - - thus providing the mother’s immunities and nourishment until the wee one's immune systems matured and his teeth came in so that he could chew like the rest of the human race. But that was then – you know, back in the days when plastic bottles with disposable plastic bags, silicon (less allergic reactions than rubber) nipples, and baby formula didn’t exist.

Now-a-days, you say the word "breasts" and pictures of Pamela Anderson’s enhanced mammaries come to mind. They don’t? Maybe I should qualify that and say in most male minds they do. Truly! Trust me, have I lied to you yet in my blogs?

Let’s face it, men like breasts as much as or more than babies do. Many men don’t really care if they are real or fake. Just ask them. They see breasts, and their lower brains perk up and sexual thoughts proceed to dominate their higher brains.

And just what kind of thoughts?

Well, not being male, I had to ask. Inquiring minds and all that. And the reply (okay, I only was brave enough to ask my better half– so shoot me) was not really all that surprising. When a man sees breasts, he thinks about getting his hands - - and his mouth - - on them and playing with them. And if the man is any good, both parties fully enjoy the process.

So, what does all this have to do with sex toys, you ask?

Nothing much, but I needed a segue into the discussion of other ways couples can stimulate the breasts besides the old-fashioned and nature-given options of fingers, hands, mouth, and, yes, teeth.
Many women find that they need extra breast stimulation to enhance their sexual excitement. A little harder pinch. Some stronger suction. An occasional tug. Maybe even an even harder pinch or tug.

That’s where nipple toys, more specifically, clamps and suction devices come in.

Ouch, you say?

Yes, nipple play using toys can be painful - - or it can be highly stimulating in a good way. It all depends upon the tolerance of the individual woman and proper timing.

There are three basic kinds of clamps. For this discussion we will assume the woman does not have breast piercings which is a whole ‘nother bag of worms. Trust me. Dr. Rae is a coward when it comes to needles and not even for her fans would she get her breasts pierced to report on the sensations that adds to sexual play. Maybe some of you with breast piercings could chime in and share with the rest of us.

The first kind of clamp is the adjustable nipple clamp. This is a good one to begin with since the adjustments (done by tightening and loosening the little screw) can go from a little pinch to a big ouch. The clamps themselves are made of metal (sometimes plastic but those break more easily). The metal have a little bit of weight that adds to the noticeability factor. The tips are covered in a rubberlike material so that the metal of the clamp does not abrade the tender nipple tissue. Many clamps of this variety are connected by a chain. The chain is so that your partner can give a little tug to the nipples as you become more aroused - - and, I suspect, because it looks kinky.

Safety tip: Avoid excessive tugging on the nipple. Even though nipples are pretty tough little mothers, a tissue tear can happen.

Safety tip: When adjusting the screw, remember, righty tighty, lefty loosey.

Adjustable clamps are also sold in pairs without chains and often have places to attach weights or decorative items to the bottom. Adding weight enters the realm of riskiness since you could tear the underlying breast tissue. But then again, babies (and sex partners) often tug the nipples extremely hard – and it takes a lot to pull the nipples away from the underlying support. Just be aware, it can happen, if you decide to add weight to the clamps. If you are more into the look of the clamp, add a string of colorful beads and bells – more playful and less wear and tear on the nipple.

The second kind of clamp, a tweezer clamp, is a tad more punishing. It also can be adjusted by sliding a small metal ring up and down the long tweezerlike clamps, but because the gripping end of the clamp is smaller, even a little pressure goes a long, long way.

Dr. Rae likes these clamps because they stay on the nipple better, but urges that you not leave them, or any clamp for that matter, on for very long. The small area that they clamp becomes even more highly sensitized and removal should only be done during the heights of orgiastic ecstasy or you might be screaming more in pain than in pleasure.

Safety Tip: Clamps are not meant to be worn for great lengths of time since they shut off the blood circulation to the nipple. Ten to fifteen minutes is more than enough -- so remember the timing issues when applying them.

The third kind of clamp, the Japanese clover clamp, is an extremely wicked device and should only be attempted if (1) you like pain and (2) you really, really like pain, and (3) you really, really, REALLY like pain.

Yes, they look harmless, and at first they feel like an adjustable clamp, only harder, but when tugged or shifted at all, well, let’s just say screaming is a word that comes to mind – or in my case, four-letter words.

Safety tip: Avoid this clamp unless you are a pain slut.

Those are the main types of clamps; there are others but they are not prevalent enough to be mentioned here or are just variations of the above three.

If pain is not your deal, but you like the look of something on the nipple and you don’t want to do something permanent such as a piercing, try a nipple enhancer.

One really sexy little number provides the look of a nipple guard without the holes. Remember Janet Jackson’s costume mishap at the Super Bowl? Yep, her gold nipple guard and piercing were televised to millions of people. Sales of non-piercing nipple jewelry soared after her exposure. There are many types of non-piercing nipple jewelry available on-line. Just type the words into your search vehicle. I believe even eBay has a section of them; they seem to have sections on everything else under the sun.

One last type of breast play that I will mention is suction. Women know it is pleasurable to have their nipples sucked. Suction promotes blood engorgement of the nipple and thus enhances both pleasurable and painful sensations. There are all sorts of really expensive pieces of equipment such as breast pumps, Chinese medical cupping sets and the like, but the cheapest way to use suction other than your partner’s lips is the good old-fashioned suction cups from a snake bite kit. Just go into your local hunting and camping store and buy a kit. Easy to find. Inexpensive. Not at all embarrassing to purchase unless you blurt out what you are going to use them for. And handy if you ever do go camping in snake country.

Sex toys for nipple play are another form of foreplay. They might not be for everyone, but you’ll never know unless you give them a whirl.

Share your experiences with nipple play – or nipple piercings – and I’ll choose one of the entries to win a free download of any one LSB book.

As always, play safely and sanely - -

Dr. Rae