Saturday, June 10, 2006

Does True Love Really Exist?

Well, in the romance novel industry, we must believe it does. After all, it is paramount in making a good story and selling it to readers.

Let’s face it. We live in the real world and not a novel. So, I wonder if true love can actually happen in the “real world.” I’m sure everyone reading this has fallen in love at least once in his or her life. What separates “love” from “true love”?

Once you find true love, what exactly does it mean? Is it someone you were destined to spend the rest of your life with or just someone who is supposed to have an influential presence?

I guess I would like some feedback regarding the thoughts and beliefs regarding true love. Personally, I’ve been searching for my place and I suppose my own destiny and where I belong both in love and my writing life.

Posted for Erin Katz!


Blogger Rae Morgan said...

True love does exist -- and over time it matures into something that is more comfortable than passionate. I know this, because I met my true love at the age of 18, and am still with him 36 years later. We've been married 34 years.

How'd I know he was the one? I just did.

It was an all-over feeling. I felt it in my gut and my head and my loins (although we waited for the loin part awhile before we succumbed to that urge). I was raised in a household by a mother who taught me that sex was worth waiting for and that it is better with the "right" person. She was right. Don't tell her I said that. LOL

I remember going home from college and telling my mom that I had met the man I was going to marry. And I did.

Was I trying to meet the "one?" Not really. I just wanted a boy friend -- but it turns out he was my friend first, the love part on his side came later. Men tend to be a tad bit slower on the uptake. I invested a lot of time in him, letting him know that I found him attractive, funny, smart and nice. He finally caught on and reciprocated the above feelings.

We still like each other -- I am still attracted to him in all the ways that I was when I was 18, but without all the angst. he still thinks I am sexy and loves my bootay -- any man who loves my bootay has to be in love with me.

Has it been hard? Sure. But good things are worth working at.


3:53 PM  
Blogger Vanessa Hart said...

My life IS like a romance novel. Oh, I had a bad marriage and went through a rough divorce. I haven't had all rosy days. But then I met THE ONE (almost 30 years ago now)! The connection we felt was immediate, strong, and undeniable. We're still madly in love. He accepts and loves me, warts and all, and understands me. He says I let him be himself. I think we qualify as soul mates.

Still Starry-eyed Nessie *sigh*

7:27 PM  
Blogger Tina Holland said...

True Love is subjective. It means different things for different people. I would define true love as someone who closely resembles everything you are looking for from chemistry to compatability. But I think everyone can find love...because if you look hard enough you can find what you want right next to you...


8:37 PM  
Anonymous Laura Rose said...

Hmm, nice timing Erin :) I'm pondering something like this over on my blog too. I do believe in true love, though I agree with Tina in that it's different for everyone, and I agree with Rae in that it changes over time. It has to, because we change.

I know it's out there. I just need to take a look at my sister, married now for twenty years to a man she met while they sat in their cars at a red light! They've had their ups and downs, but they've worked through the problems. It's weird to still hear her call him sexy, and they seem more in love now than ever.

And then there's my best friend, who needed to move 200km away from her home to find the love of her life who happened to live in the next town up the highway. They've just had their first baby.

But you know, I'm coming to realise that some of us find our true love early, and some of us have to wait a little longer. My mama always said good thing comes to those who wait. I sure hope she was right :)

9:26 PM  

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